How to let go and file for divorce??when you still love your husband??

My husband and i have been together three years and married a year and a half. He has never wanted to have children i found this out after we were married unfortunatley.He had a vasectomy done so it would never happen. I had no say but respected his wishes and hoped one day to convice him to get it reversed or to adopt since i was 22 and thought i had plenty of time to convince him and i loved my husband enough to go along with it. Something went wrong with the vasectomy and now i am 7 months pregnant with his child.At first he did not even believe it was his till a doctor confirmed it had (vas) reversed itself.I feel like i am in a living hell my husband hates me.He has become verbally abusive and wont talk to me.He changed the locks on our home and left my things outside with my dog.I dont have any family in houston my family is in NJ so i am living with one of his friends.How to let go and file for divorce??when you still love your husband??
Get an abortion and call it a loss. Wanting kids when your spouce does not is an absolute deal-breaker.How to let go and file for divorce??when you still love your husband??
well that's tact for you..She's seven months pregnant..she cant get an abortion and she doesn't want to..did you not read what she said..she wants children..i think her husband is being very selfish and can not love her that much if he can treat her that way..

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how you going to abort in the seventh month, that baby is almost full term...unplanned pg happen all the time part of haveing sex, men need to step up and be responsible or stop having sex!!

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u shuld juss go through da divorce cause its his fault for doin it if he dint want to have a baby its not ur fault dat ur pregnate....
Wow...I am so sorry to hear about this.





First off you must think of what is right for you and your unborn child. If your husband is now verbally abusive things could get worse if he does not get help.





Second, are you happy or not? You have to get to the root of the problem. If you stay with him do you think he will help with the baby?





Please think long and hard about divorcing him. That does seem like a quick fix to your problems but is it the right decision? No one will be able to tell you but you.





Third, you need to be strong for your delivery. Try not to get stressed out because this will be harmful for the baby. Since you are maternity leave you can still be able to save money for the baby.





Seek assistance and ultimately I would apply for child support when the baby is born. Every child deserves love, and emotional and financial support. But every child deserves to live in a happy home. Check out the link below about child support.





Make sure you communicate with your family. They will be able to give you the support you need.





OPEN UP ANOTHER BANK ACCOUNT. If you don't you will never be able to save and keep money for you and your child.





He seems very angry and depressed and needs help. Leave him alone for a while. Maybe it is a good thing that both of you are separated. This way you will be able to think about what you need to do.





God Bless and I hope all will work out for you!
The main problem here is that you still love this loser after the way he treated you; your lack self-esteem is your issue and what needs to be fixed.





This guy didn't want kids and flew off the handle after HIS OWN OPERATION FAILED HIM; he's taking it out on you and threw you out of your house.





And you still love him after he did all of that?





What you need to do:





1. Sever ALL financial ties; he's going to leave you broke if he can help it - don't. Get your own bank account NOW and close any and all credit accounts that will let you.





2. Move on; get your own place as soon as you can afford it - you will need to establish a loving home for your child, with or without ';dad';.





3. File for divorce; you can easily claim abandonment, considering the way he's treated you - keep a journal of dates and times when he threw you out, etc. Sue your ex for child support if you want, but with your income, you may not need to - cutting him out of your life entirely might be worth not getting the $$$.





4. Get back to life; stress will adversely affect pregnancy - get over the baby's father and get back to your own life. Have the child you wanted, start dating again and fall in love with someone will BE THERE for you and your child.





Living a happy, fulfilling life with a man who deserves you will be the best recovery anyone can make from being jilted in the dishonorable way you just went through.
Wow...this story is almost 'unbelievable'.


How could he be so cold...? You just watch, he'll treat you like sh*t until after the babies born, then he'll want you back....


Maybe. Whatever the case I think it's a good thing he kicked you out. You don't need to be treated like that, especially pregnant.


And I commend his friend for taking you in.


Just relax, have the baby and in the meantime, start thinking about ';your and your baby's' future. Plan ahead. Start job hunting now even...and looking for housing. There's lots of services out there to help out a single mother.....And get your money out of that checking account. At least as much as you can. Maybe you should get ahold of legal aide and find out exactly what your rights are.....


Take it easy....you must be strong for you and your child...


good luck! ! !