Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How do you handle overly critical family?

My husband is the only male in his family. He has a mother,


grandmother, 2 sisters, aunt,2female cousins%26amp; me. His mother


ang grandma are very critical of us. They have an opinion


about everything we do- from our religion, style, to parenting.


His sister is extremely difficult %26amp; spoiled, and says untrue things


to his grandma about me- this causes tension. I need to figure


out a new way of dealing with them! Sometimes I can't believe


what I married into. How do you deal with women that criticize


every move you make?How do you handle overly critical family?
Hi..





How do you deal with women that criticize every move you make...well, you try and avoid them as much as you can.





Speak to your husband and tell him how you feel.





As you are his family now, he needs to take your side (between you and his family).





I would be laying all my cards on the table with his family and tell them how you feel...you don't need to be rude just say what you feel. You will listen and consider the advice they may give BUT it is up to you and your husband if you take any of it on. Especially, with parenting.





The family need to understand and respect the way of parenting you have both decided on. They had their chance with their children...this is yours. Whilst you can listen and take on their advice..it's your choice whether to or not. You need to learn from your own mistakes..that's how we grow as a person.





As for religion, its best not discussed. Really...religion is the cause of many wars around the world and no one will ever agree on this.





Sounds like you need to make grandma one of your allies.





Good luck.How do you handle overly critical family?
Be yourself,stop caring what they think and tell them all to kiss your azz and tell your husband he better stick by you and defend your right to stand up to them.
You tell them that you respect them so you expect them to return the same respect and that if they continue to be highly critical, insulting to your lifestyle + beliefs, parenting, etc that you will have no problem cutting them out of your lives especially your children's. Sometimes you have to be harsh with complete morons like that. Just make sure that you and your husband back each other up and don't give into them. Good luck!
Move very far away from them.

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