Is it right to hate my wife for this?

20 years into our marriage and 4 kids later, my wife has started letting me know that she likes large penises (and I'm only average). She never comes straight out with it, but is always dropping hints, sometimes subliminally. Example: looks at a cucumber and (half jokingly) says it's too small because it has to be at least 8';. There are many other examples: here's another: comes home from shopping one day, pale in the face and tells me she ran into a guy she had a one-night stand with before we were married. It is well known via the grape vine that this guy has a LARGE dong. That evening, hours later, she looks annoyed, doesn't want to talk to me and gives me the cold shoulder in bed. Now if this guy had had a relationship with her, I could understand. But it was a one night stand! The only thing she could be reminiscing about is his penis.





How can this happen after 20 years of marriage? I guess she must have been like this all along but was hiding it, maybe now she's tired of hiding it. I think it runs in the family - my wife brags on occasion about her brother's large penis and how he won a penis size competition. My wife's mother occasionally brags about her son's large penis, sometimes in company! How embarrassing. What kind of psycho brags about her son's penis size in the company of 20 people, some of whom she hardly knows? My wife has bragged about her father's large penis. My teen daughter inherited the same ';penis on the brain'; syndrome - when my daughter insulted the size of my penis one day in front of my wife, my wife gave ME the cold shoulder!! You would expect her to be angry with our daughter for being insolent. Instead it was like she was thinking our daughter was right and she got angry with me for not having a big enough penis. Things will be OK for a while and then in a few days, or weeks, wife will make another stupid comment or innuendo about my penis and my blood will boil again.





How can someone be so shallow, especially at her age? What happened to love? How could someone who respects her husband do this? How can she claim to love and respect me and then insult my penis? (not directly - which makes it harder to deal with). It's no use talking to her about it because she will LIE to keep things sweet. It's like she wants me to know but doesn't want me to know. I don't think she's cheating / cheated but she is definitely regretting not having married a man with an 8'; dong. To my ego, that's as bad as her cheating on me. She may as well go have a fling with the prime penis of her choice.





It's like she's thinking ';OK, so I decided to marry a guy with a dick that is too small for me. But because my decisions are always right, I can't go back on that. I have to stick it out. God how I wish I had a guy with an 8'; cock, I'll just have to grit my teeth and try to live with 6'; for the rest of this marriage';.





I can tell you that it has nothing to do with lack of technique in bed. I spend 20 mins warming her up (to which she is very responsive) and we can keep going for up to an hour, and she always orgasms before me. Pardon all the detail but I really think it is necessary background information. She loves sex, she claims I'm a good lover, she says she loves me, but then how do you explain this other horrible stuff she does? It makes me feel sick and I don't want to have sex with her any more. Because of this we now go weeks or sometimes months without sex, I would quit altogether but that would make her really nasty and things would probably go bang.





I've just about had enough. She's made me hate myself for being inadequate and now I hate her for making me hate myself. Is this right? What can I do about it? Can't take it any more, I feel like placing a dating ad for a partner that regards 6 inches as a good sized dong and blowing the whole marriage to bits, but then I think of how devastated the kids would be, the lawyers, chopping up our estate etc. So should I just shut myself off and wait it out till the kids have left home? I truly, truly, truly cannot live with this much longer. I don't know what to do.Is it right to hate my wife for this?
First, I have to say it is gross how everyone know everyone's penis size in your family. For your daughter to say something about your penis is disgusting! In my opinion, that is.





And wait, penis size competitions.....really? They even exist?





Okay, let me get serious..


What your wife did was a complete b*tch move. Thats not fair to compare you to anyone and say stuff like that. Apparently, its a big deal in her family to be hung but you said you have 6 inches; that is not a bad size! You sound very upset about this and should NOT have to live with that. Honestly, I hate to say this, but soemthing like that can ruin a marriage. You dont do that to your husband. You can do so much better than that.





I know its expensive to divorce and the kids will be upset but what about YOU? You seem like a guy that puts everyone before him and thats a great trait but right now, this is about you. In my opinion, leave her and find someone that will respect you. Dont look at it as a sex thing breaking up the marriage, look at is as a disrespect issue on her part that is breaking up the marriage.





I am really sorry youre going through this :(


Good luck.Is it right to hate my wife for this?
Ok so how did your TEENAGE DAUGHTER find out just how ';average'; YOUR PENIS is? That's the only question that concerns me.
How come you daughter doesn't like your 6'; either?





I SEE SOME PPL R TAKING U SERIOUS
Print this out and give it to her....seriously.
';My daughter doesn't like how big my d*ck is';











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You definately need to have a talk with your wife. I cant believe your daughter made that comment to you. I would have been smacked across the face hard if I said that to my dad. Did you tell your daughter how imappropriate and tacky that comment was? Any consequence at all? There is something wrong with a family that is focused on penis size. If she continues to make those remarks after you talk to her then I would ';peace out'; because there is someone out there who will appreciate, love and respect you as is
Fist off your wife married you because she loves you. Your more to her then sexual satisfaction. As far as all the talk about larger size that is a touchy subject not one to keep harping on about. Possibly your wife is having thoughts and is trying to bring up the subject of a third party in the bedroom. If you think about this she has never brought this up in the past. Ill be honest if a women tells you she doesn't get more satisfaction out of a very large member she is lieing to you. Maybe throw it back in her face and start talking about how a twenty year old female would be a nice change. As hard as this may seem don't make a big deal out of this. No pun intended. I can give you more advice which i wont go into here if you would like. Just mail me.
This is a difficult question. While it's true that an 8'; penis gives a much fuller feeling than a smaller one, it's not right to bring it up and embarrass the husband about the issue. She married you knowing very well the size of your tool. This seems like some kind of mental punishment or abuse to you. Especially that she didn't have the class to stick up for you with your own daughter. I'd be willing to bet that this goes back to her own upbringing.





Someone above mentioned that it may be a backdoor approach to bringing in a third party to the bedroom. I agree. Depending on how much you love your wife, you might be open to the idea. While it's not really common, it is a lifestyle that some consenting adults enjoy. (that would be us) It's a very wonderful gesture for the husband to allow his wife to enjoy something ';large'; maybe once or twice during a month. There must be rules, and you cannot deviate from those or there will be a total loss of trust and love.





You could indulge her fantasies next time just the two of you are out by pointing out the men with a large package in their pants. Maybe by just acknowledging this you could avoid her desires? Or even if you go dancing with her, you could allow her to dance with the guys with the biggest bulges that are visible. It sounds very hard for you to come to grips with what Mother Nature has given you as your own. 6'; is quite nice, but 8'; is a huge difference. But it still isn't right to abuse you in the mean time.





Have a talk with your wife and find out how seriously she wants something larger. If she says she really doesn't want something larger than you, ask her to stop the abuse because it is ruining your marriage. Good luck!
yeh shes an *** if she cares about the size of your penis rather than you as a person. everyone knows its how you use it, plus its only a tiny part of your marriage. she sounds like a dick and you should confront her if you are unhappy.
Your wife is an absolute creep. If my partner bragged about their siblings genitals I'd probably off myself to save myself from the mental images.
You are right, she is being a shallow *****.





Have you told her any of this though? Does she realise how it makes you feel?





If you have and she is doing it still, leave. She has no respect for you.
jimmy jimmy jimmy this is why divorce rates are 50%.TALK TO UR WIFE!!!how do u know she's gonna lie to keep things sweet?this is a very important matter to talk to ur spouse about. u could very possibly be wrong and reading into things wrongly i swear to u i've seen similar situations where the guy thinks something like this and the wife has no idea of the entire situation.and a 6 inch is long enough nobody needs a 20 feet long penis.and also if ur wife isn't satisfied in the bedroom try using different sex positions to make it mare pleasurable for u both. different angles and different depth can make sex a lot better.so don't rush into things and do talk to ur wife and ask her about spicing things up with new positions.








and also seems like her family is kinda twisted.why in the hell does she even know how big her brothers penis is?i mean eeeeeeeeeeeew.just the thought is sick if u ask me.and u should have seriously punished ur daughter.i would have washed her mouth out with soap.
That's different,it's usually men making woman feel like that talking about the five lbs she needs to lose or checking out other woman in front of her.





I would suggest your wife do some keegles to take care of that being stretched out problem.





http://www.kegelmasters.com/kegelmaster-…





also why the hell does a teen daughter know anything about her dad's penis,that's just wrong.
there are a lot of issues that you need to tackle with your wife. relationship, sexuality, commitment, love. new challenges 20 years after etc. you need a marriage counsellor to help you facilitate in evoking things. do not look at it as negative development but a challenge to manage. look at these things as positive in life of relationship.
you truly are in a very very unhealthy marriage. I suggest you take your pride and a couple of your belongings and get out of it right away - in a friendly way. Split everything in half, and wish your wife someone with a big dong and say so long... keep in touch with your kids, and start taking care of yourself NOW.. You've married into a redneck-y family, sounds like.. where family members are competing in ';biggest...'; competitions, it's ridiculous..
god!! this is worse than we met the fockers!!! its so weird when a wife talks of her husbands dong. but a sister about her brothers and a mother about her sons!! gimme a f*ckin' break! i should have become a psychiatrist than a pediatrician. thats 20 yrs worth of therapy right there!





well, when her family was measuring penises, a red flag (that you are marrying into the circus) should have come up!
You've hit the nail with her, she's shallow. Or/and at least extremely immature.





Unfortunately, there's no cure for shallow. It's her problem that will affect all of your lives. If I were guessing, I'd think this wasn't the only thing she's immature about.





I'd suggest that you find a way to avoid this whenever it comes up. Her immaturity in such a hurtful matter isn't helping you at all. When she starts ANY of that nonsense, walk away. Literally. Don't respond. Don't allow her to engage you with any of this conversation.
Hey, don’t worry too much Jimmy. But please take note… she is really demanding something here. But she doesn’t want to confront you with it. Even if you don’t have that penis, she may be looking for something that you can give her, that does not relate entirely on the size of your penis.





I guess you should act cool and confident. Your wife will prefer a confident guy with a 6″ “dong” than a shy guy with a 8″ “dong” It’s true there is a huge relationship between the size of your penis and your confidence levels. And maybe that’s the reason you should look for a way to increase your male organ. Let’s discuss it a little further on the way.





In fact, there is no point in talking to her. Admit it, you are not confused and you know what’s about already.





I have taken a look at some of the other answers, and they are pretty much emotional, and in fact they may give you some support, they are somewhat cold and don’t give you much of a solution, I hope you find some hope and a solution on my part Jimmy.





SO, I have made a blog post about your questions as I have found it very interesting, I hope you don't mind Jimmy. I took the time to carefully address most of your points and give you a solutions so increase the size of your penis.





The post is on my blog: http://natureblog.checkdavid.com





And the permanent link to the post is: http://natureblog.checkdavid.com/2010/04/25/is-it-right-to-hate-my-wife-for-this-yahoo-answers/





So people, feel free to come and comment =)