How can I rekindle the love with my husband?

We have been married 6 years together 11 and I feel like he doesn't love me. I dont want a divorce I just want a happy marriage. We have been to marriage counselling for 8 months and it has not helped a thing. I always want sex but he rejects me. I even spice things up. He never eats dinner with us and when he does he just eats and leaves. I want a husband who appreciates me and wants to please me. What is wrong with me I am sad everyday but I am scared that if I leave him things will be worse for me and our 2 sons. My friends tell me to leave because they are sick of seing me dissapointed and alone.How can I rekindle the love with my husband?
Well your friends are right. Why put the time in effort into a sinking ship. How could things get worse when your man isn't there or with you most of the time? It is a scary situation to raise kids on your own but your happiness is important. If not for you for your kids.How can I rekindle the love with my husband?
Divorce is not always the first solution but it should be the last choice.


It seems like you are the only one trying hard to keep the marriage and he doesn't care at all.


You are trying everything so there is nothing more you can do.


Try to find out why he is behaving so??/or has he been this way since the beginning?? Does he not love his family??


If he does not change then I think it will be the last choice
is it possible he seeing someone else? like i said in your other question I'm in a similar situation. my husband a porn addict and your husband and mine seem to have a lot in common. go to therapy for yourself, find out what makes you stay. what you really want out of life and what your willing to compromise to get it. you can't change him, but you can change how you react to him.
Do you ty talking to him? I know you said you are in counseling, but outside of counseling? And if you are in counseling, and he eats and leaves..shows he isnt very invested, or you should change counselors. Your kids probably feel it as well. See what is best for the family as a whole, and do that. Maye a trial separation.. Good luck
';he just eats and leaves.'; Where does he go?





Time to go honey. Its over.
tell him he need to think and see if he want to be in this marriage or not you are trying but he has to two you need tell him change or i am gone
Are you relating all of these feelings to your husband in your couples counseling? Sounds to me that if the counseling isn't helping and things aren't getting better, they're not going to. It might be hard for you (and your boys) if you leave him like you said, in fact it WILL be, I've witnessed both my sister's divorces and helped them through it, but you know what? In the end they were both happier once they got through the rough beginning of the end.


One is now happily married to her new husband and they just ADORE eachother. The other is just happy finding herself again and doing things SHE enjoys. Don't sacrifice your happiness out of fear of change. It will be hard on your boys too but don't you think they'd be happier with a mother who is happy and feels good about herself? Rather than them witnessing a broken marriage? My sister's kids had it rough for a while and now that they're all in high school they understand.


I wish you all the best, you deserve to be loved and happy and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you!