How would you feel if your husband/spouse was responding to online personal ads?

I am just curious how you would feel if you found out your spouse and our husband was responding to online personal ads for sexual interactions? I feel it is wrong when you are in a commited relationship. We've been married for 7 years now. I had no idea he would ever do something like this. He was even responding to m4m ads. He doesn't know that I know this since he has deleted all of his email excluding one email response that he got that contains a phone # for someone. What are your opinions on this? Thank you in advance.How would you feel if your husband/spouse was responding to online personal ads?
damn.. m4m? deeper problems than you can handle i;m sureHow would you feel if your husband/spouse was responding to online personal ads?
Some time it happens in almost everyone's life that other partner seem curious or some time interest in some extra relation may be online or physical. Most of these partners do this not with any intention to break away from present relation but just to explore. Some time we get e-mails which lead us to some site which provide interaction with opposite sex. Any one who open these mail and follows the link may feel irresistible to get away from seeing it. But i personally feel that till it is online only and the other person is far away, is just like an extended flirt, it may not going to harm the present relation. But is it is beyond that one should be careful and stop these kind of relations


If you are sure that it is serious, talk to your partner and also try to understand his physical need. I am sure dialogue will help
If he's cheating in his mind, he's already cheating on you. The definition of adultery in the Bible is that ';if a man thinks it in his mind, he's already done it!';





The choice is yours. Confront him, and ask how many times he's already visited these other people. That will put you in a better position to make a realistic decision. Also, remember that for every woman who says ';no'; there are 20 that will say ';yes'; to someone like this!
My wife would beat me up if I did this. I know because she tried to beat me up when she thought I was doing this before. She has no problem with porn, and I had been on the adult friend finder website attempting to look at some naughty pics. She checked the history and thought something totally different. This was 5 months ago and she still has not fully recovered. Women seem to snap when they find something like this. Your situation is worse than mine because your man is communicating with people and getting phone numbers. If you are anything like my wife, you are probably pacing around the room and nearly hyperventilating.
Your husband has some serious issues going on here and I would get to the bottom of it now.


I would inform him of what I know and confront him and not tolerate what he is doing.


He would have only one chance at this point to go into marriage counseling with me because I would not deal with this only with him.


He is up to no good and I would make him accountable for his actions or leave him before he acts on something if he hasn't already?


He is giving you every indication that he is cheating or is getting ready to if the right thing comes along.
As a husband, I'll say that it's extremely wrong. Looking around and responding to someone are two different things. I've been married much longer than you, and I know sometimes guys do goofy things, hey we can't help it, but responding to something like that is wrong. I would try to have a talk with him about it.
Most would say to confront him. Well if it was me I would place my own ad and see if he responded. Then see how far he took it. He may be answering the ads just to spice things up and has no intention of doing anything except flirting. But if he answered and actually met the person well then you need to kick him to the curb. So, place your own ad and see if he will meet you. If he does well then he can't lie about his intentions.
Wow, I'm sorry you're having to go through this, I would be absolutely devistated. And he's even responding to m4m ads, seems like he's hiding a few things from you. This is pretty much cheating, you need to sit down and have a talk with him and decide what you want to do in regards to moving forward. Good luck!
sad but true i think he needs help .everyone jumps right to divorce to me that's wrong. i have been married 26+ years and we went through ruff times but here we are still going.and i think it only makes you stronger. and smarter.good luck in what ever you do .but you have to let him know that you know communication is a must in a relationship.
you have reason to be suspicious. He has feelings he isn't sharing with you. He's hiding things and of course doesn't want you to know... ask him about it... if he immediately gets defensive.. I gues you have your answer. You can try *how would you feel if I did what you are doing?'; if he says he wouldn't care than he needs to check in emotionally and ask himself if he wants to be with you anymore.
I would kick his butt. And then I would talk to him about it. What does he feel like he's missing, is this something you two can work through and get back the ';spark'; that must be missing? If he's unresponsive to any effort on your part to mend things, then I would leave and never look back.
Well technically he's cheating on you. So I would be pretty pissed. You'd have to think about how many has he acted on? What's he doing when he's not with you? I would confront him, what you do after that is up to you.
Found mine doing kinda the same thing but he had recieved responses. Told him if I ever found anything remotley sexual going on between him and someone again he wouldn't get a chance to explain. We've been together 15 yrs. and it's kinda like cyber cheating.
Hmmm a married guy would do that for only one reason, anonymous gay sex....uh oh. Or he's being a huge tease and must be stopped for the sake of all gay kind.
Print your evidence for the divorce attorney.





He most likely is whoring himself everywhere %26amp; you didn't have a clue until now.





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if we have kids . i would talk to him to see . what we need to do so that we can work it out . say do we need go on a date





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What he's doing is wrong and he knows it otherwise he wouldnt have deleted all the evidence. He has no respect for his wedding vows or you.
umm i think its bc they are courious and they don't realize what they can lose {us woman},you should talk to him about it and tell him to stop
that he is cheating, i would be filing for divorce i mean you have evidence that he is cheating.
I would bring it up to him and ask him why, then tell him hes out the door. Its wrong especially if hes married!
keep that email as evidence and a male for male eeek thats questionable like is he bi or gay if so u need to print out that email and confront him
confront him! his behavior is not acceptable!!!
He's cheating.
listen that is cheating.
There is no question that what he is doing is wrong and considered cheating even if hasn't met with any of these people physically yet. Just by interacting with these people over the computer is crossing the line and showing no boundaries on his part. What you need to do is to confront him- find out why and what prompted him to do this and then really think if your marriage is able to be saved. I would suggest that you do not confront him in an angry reactive way because that is unproductive but I would have a very serious discussion with him and ask him how long this has been going on. has he been doing this throughout your whole relationship? if you feel the marriage is worth saving you could try couples therapy. one word of caution though- once you confront him, don't let him twist it around. Guys can be very calculating that way when they are ';busted';. They have a tendency to twist things around and leave you feeling like YOU did something wrong. Good luck and I'm sorry this happened to you.
I would feel betrayed, hurt, disgusted with the guy, i have no idea how you are feeling at the moment i am sorry to hear that your husband the one you love can do this to you.





Dont be that woman to let him get away with it, not telling him because you are scared of his reaction. Clearly theres a problem on his behalf and i suggest you find out what he thinks is lacking in your relationship for him to want to look elsewhere. None of this is anything to do with you, most men are selfish thats allll it ever boils down to, selfishness an wanting more.








He took another womans mobile number who knows what he was planning to do or has done, he could meet up with them or have done i;m sorry to be so blunt but i suggest talking to him only he has the answers as to why he did it xxx