I lost my job and now I have to go back on birth control...how can I cope?

My husband and I had my trying to concieve since January, and in February I found out I was pregnant and shortly after miscarried. We decided to keep on trying. I have pcos (polycystic ovary syndrome) and even though I'm only 21 my doctor said I need to try early if I want a big family which I do. Well then suddenly last week I got laid off. I knew deep down that would ruin our plans of TTC because my husbands job is not sufficient enough...but I was in denial until tonight. My husband sat me down to talk about it and I just burst into tears. He said when I find a good job again (I am a nursing assistant) that we can start trying again but I fear it will take me a long time since the last time I was laid off (two years ago) it took me 8 months to get a new job. This is devastating to me I'm not sure how to deal with it. I felt like my dream was so close and now it's been ripped away from me. How can I cope?I lost my job and now I have to go back on birth control...how can I cope?
if your doctor has given you instructions so start early because of your condition, i want to encourage you to NOT take birth control and continue with trying to get pregnant. until you find a job, let the government do something for you. medicaid, food stamps, nutrition classes.. there are soo many things available for FREE to mothers. all you have to do is swallow a little bit of pride and think about the bigger picture.





you will have a job one day, and will be able to chose to end any help you are recieving. a job.. or lack of one.. shouldnt be something keeping you from your dream of having a large family.





government assistance is just that.. assistance! its not the easy way out, or the lazy way out. its unfortunate many people chose to abuse the system, when there are hardworking people out there busting their a** to make a dollar. everyone needs help at times. there is nothing wrong with setting aside stereotypes when the goal is a child, and a lifelong committment to a family.I lost my job and now I have to go back on birth control...how can I cope?
It might not be a fun job, but you can actually make a lot working at a place like McDonald's - where you can also move up.


Even a good waitress can make a lot. You get a constant wage plus your tips.





You might have to sacrifice a job you love for one that just pays.
alcohol?
Go back on birth control. Until you both have stable income, I urge you not to think about having any kids right now. It is expensive and it is not other people's duty to pay for you. Children should be born to responsible parents.


(Do you even know how much it costs to have a child? Right now, my baby is 3+ years old and it costs me about $1500.00 per month for babysitter. And that is only for 3 days per week. Not including music lessons, french lessons, clothes, food, travels. )


It will be hard on your relationship if there is financial burden. So wait a little bit until you can find another job. Otherwise, having a child right now will definitely place you in a financial hardship. And that is not something you want at this time.