How to get back at your mother in law?

when you and your husband live with her and she is so rude and makes you uncomfortableHow to get back at your mother in law?
FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT! Jk


tell her to be more positive and tell her, ';Back off dude';How to get back at your mother in law?
I get what your saying, getting back at her is not the solution. If you think it's bad now, you haven't seen nothing yet. You and your husband need to have a serious talk with her about what's bothering you.
I have been with the same man for 5 years and for some strange reason, his parents have never liked me. Mind you, I am a good girl with good morals and good intentions for their son. I have never cheated on him or anything like that. I understand what it is like to have problems with a boyfriend/fiance/husbands mother. They can be the WORST! lol, what I would do, is just pull her aside (without her son there) and tell her how you feel. Use ';I'; statements. Don't tell her what SHE is doing wrong. Use this formula: I feel _______ when you ________ and if this does not stop, I will ______. Do NOT threaten her! lol. Just make it clear that you respect her and her son, and that it is disrespectful to you AND your husband when she does these things. Good luck!
i say keep it cool, i mean she IS ur mother in law, but do have a talk with her. Fighting wont go anywhere but lead to more problems..so talk it out :) Good luck hun!
I've always found that being very nice is the soloution, laugh and agree always, she will find this insufferable, it's the best revenge and you look like the good one in your husbands eyes
In-laws can be difficult. When two sets live in the same house many things can be difficult. It is important to talk with your mother-in-law but not just you. Both you and your husband. No matter what is going on he needs to back you up. As was said before use I statements and also find out if there is something that bothers her about your behavior. It could be a minor incident that you have no idea would have bothered her. Or it could be a habit of yours that annoys her. Most important is to communicate and all parties try to make a plan so everyone feels the love and comfort they deserve. If there are issues such as mental issues or some reason that things will not change it is important for you and your husband find another place to live. Good luck.
Always be as nice to her as possible. I know this will be difficult and hard to swallow, and it would feel so good to 'get her back' but in the end, she is still your mother in law, which means she will always be a part of your life. And if she lives with you, you have to see her on a regular basis. It will be better for everyone involved if you take the high road, and getting back at her will only make your living situation more uncomfortable. And if you are super sweet and polite in response to her rudeness, it will only highlight your grace and her ill behaviour. Whereas if you lash out, it will not reflect well on you and that won't help your case.





When she is openly rude to you, I see nothing wrong with saying ';you may not realize this, and I'm sure you don't mean it, but when you do/say XXX, I find it offensive because it makes me feel/think XXX. I would appreciate it if you wouldn't do that.'; You stay calm, stand up for yourself, and be clear (but polite) that her behaviour is not something you will tolerate.





Then speak to your husband about the things that she is doing that bother you - be completely open. Hopefully he can witness some examples himself, which should then compel him to speak to her because HE thinks she's being rude to you, not because you asked him to talk to her on your behalf.