Tuesday, August 10, 2010

How do you get your husband to want to spend more time alone with you?

he's a great daddy, a wonderful provider. does whatever he can to help me when he has time to around here. but we get little to no private time together. he works a lot of hours, we have 2 yr old little boy who we both try to spend as much time as possible with, he tries to make time for his brothers and sisters which i understand, he tries to make time for himself doing stuff that he wants to do, which is cool he needs that, and then there is the 2 of us. our tiny bit of time together consists of eating dinner on the sofa while watching television sitcoms, and well, that's about it. there is very little affection or intimacy what so ever. i know that we both love each other very much, but we never get time together to do real couple stuff. i try to talk to him about it and he shrugs it off by making a joke and saying,';why can't you just love me?'; i do love him, very much, if i didn't i wouldn't care that we don't spend no quality time alone together..i am also 39 weeks pregnant, and so it's getting ready to be even more difficult to find that time.. i don't know how to get him to understand. he won't have a real conversation with me about it, and the few times that we have he agrees with me that we need to spend more time together, and yet still here i sit and nothing has changed.. i don't know what else to do.. i realize that we have a lot of things going on in our lives right now, but that does not mean that we need to let those things get in the way of us spending some intimate time alone together. and although it is very important, i am not even just referring to sex.. i want to spend time with him even if it's just cuddling and holding each other, maybe having a nice dinner alone at night without our 2 yr old, at the table without the tv on. no sitcoms, just us and maybe some music, or just us talking about us.. does that make sense? what do i do? how do i get him to not just say he understands, but actually wants to work with me to help fix this? i miss my husband. how do i get him to miss me enough to want to spend more time alone with me?How do you get your husband to want to spend more time alone with you?
When he comes in the door, have the television draped over with a sheet, a candlelight dinner set up, and junior off to a babysitter for the night. Maybe hell get the hint then.How do you get your husband to want to spend more time alone with you?
Book a weekend away, just the two of you.
I wonder if you are really as interested in his perspective as you apparently are with your own.
Your question seems geared towards woman, but as a man I can understand your desire to spend more time with your hubby. Its a shame that men and woman have to work so hard and so many hours that our relationships suffer. Trying to juggle time to spend with family can be even more difficult when you and your spouse have large families. Basically, (and i hate using that word) it's all about planning. Your husband needs to be made aware of your desire to spend more time with him first, He needs to plan ahead for time alone with you. It not just going to happen with out dedicated planning. If he fails to make time for you, don't be afraid to let him know it. Good relationships just don't happen, they require working towards common goals of commitments, and sacrifices for one another. Keep on him by letting him know how you feel. I think your love for him will win over his time for you. If I was him, I would be flattered at your request for more intimate alone time. It's all about careful planning.
I give all the money to my wife,She pays the bills on time,Our houses are paid for,2 car paid in full and a ford f150 also.Am I rich......By no means. I am on retirement Worked in a factory,And collect Soc Sc.What ever is left she knows I dont really care what she buys.She doesnt go hog wild.

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