How do I tell my husband I'm upset about no birthday present or dinner without hurting him?

How do I tell my husband I'm upset about no birthday present or dinner due to being 'short on money'? We had plans and as of yesterday he said we didn’t have enough money so he gave me a choice of either going shopping to get a few things I need and have waited a while to purchase or going out to dinner. The gift has already been tabled. This is our first year of marriage and he started a new job several months ago. I’m hurt because I always do a nice birthday for him and his kids who I care about. When he graduated and got a new job and it was his birthday a month ago I took him out to dinner and let him buy a $650 gun, which he now wants to buy $200 worth of accessories for. I make more money, I’ve been taking care of bills and things for a year while he finished school. I hate to say “I” and ‘Him” as if to separate us but I’m starting to get resentful, especially now that it’s my birthday.How do I tell my husband I'm upset about no birthday present or dinner without hurting him?
Why spare his feelings, you're the victim here. Keep it real w/him and let him know that he really messed up, and you're upset about it.How do I tell my husband I'm upset about no birthday present or dinner without hurting him?
Sometimes telling your husband how you truly feel is more important than protecting him from hurtful feelings. This is one of those times.
This is a perfect example of why a woman cannot marry 'down'.


It just doesn't work.





We can go on %26amp; on about what a jerk he is or how unrealistic you are but none of that matters.


You're still going to resent him for being less successful than you and it will be pointedly difficult to cope with on occasions such as this.
It seems very unfair that he didn't get you anything but if money is tight I understand why he didn't., why not suggest he gives you a night of pampering instead? it doesn't cost money and is an Intimate thing, get him to run you a bath, give u a massage, then make you dinner of ure choice, and then u both watch a movie of ure choice.
I can't imagine how he wouldn't already know how you feel. Is he a complete moron or are you a great actor?


Open your mouth. One thing husbands are not- mind readers. Men and women feel differently about things. Talk.
Be a woman and complain to his face about it. If he can waste 200 bucks on his gun he can buy you a present.
Your husband is a self bast**d. Just tell him! What? It's okay for him to hurt your feelings, but not okay for you to express your hurt? Time to go for counselling to learn how to communicate with one another.
Well maybe you should get yourself something nice since you deal with all the money. Also tell you man that when money starts coming in he owes you a nice weekend trip for your b-day
Just tell him that you feel you deserve more.
i think it awful that he did that becuase u think highly of him and he didn`t do the same for u


u should tell him how u felt make him understand what he did and how it made u feel and if he does not feel sorry or at even say sorry the don`t waste ur mone on him treat ur self
what do you all need a gun for?
I always hate it when people get all worked up over a birthday. IT'S JUST ANOTHER DAY!





With that said, what goes for one, should go for the other. However, if you realize you are short on cash and you and your husband agreed to do one thing over the other, you need to get over it. You already made your decision. You're turning this into a tit for tat type deal and that's a surefire way to ruin a relationship.
stop being materialistic. its not how much money spent for birthday gift, but its all about with how much love he gave you. that is important. understand and support him if he cant afford you costly things. see for love and care not for gifts.
You started this mess. You bought him %26amp; those kids with all your grand standing. $650 for a gun! This is absurd! Sounds like he's been taking you for a ride and YOU let him. Don't get mad at him, get mad at yourself. You should have been training them all to respect you for who you are, NOT what you can give them.
he's your hub so you don't have to hold back feelings or sugar coat anything..


just tell him how you're hurt and whatnot.. he probably just got into the moment with graduating and gettin this new job that he accidentally forgot about your special day..


and again men are not calendars, they don't remember things they don't want to but this is the one day that is YOUR day so nothing as simple as a card says alot about the future dealing with this topic..


and remember, sometimes you just have to forgive and forget in order to live happily..
Ever think the reason why you two are broke and ';short on money'; is because youre buying frivolous things such as $650.00 guns?





I have no sympathy for you because you put yourself in a financial mess and let him spend the money on needless things. You deserve every bit of your dollar store box birthday cake you get this year.
The money excuse doesn't necessarily wash. I made my fiancee a CD of all the songs that remind me of us, and handmade a book to go in it explaining why I included each song. She loved it more than any gift I've ever paid money for. If you put thought into it you can get around the 'cost' problem.