im not ugly, dont need to loose weight or anything..if anything need to gain 5-10lbs lol... are intamacy is very good.... i do cook, not all the time but its pretty mutual... i just want to know how to capture hsi attention again.. what he says is always more important than what others are saying at the time, i'd like him to feel the same way about me. should i stop talking so much? be more secreative/myseterious or something?How can i get my husband to give me the same attention he did when we were dating?
Men start to feel really comfortable with us after awhile, then they tend to take us for granted. They know what we are going to say, or how we are going to react to most things that happen. They love us but after awhile there are really no surprises left, so they get a little bored. There's also the fact that a lot of guys do a lot of the romantic gestures to catch us. They never really intended to keep it up FOREVER, once they have us. My husband actually admitted this to me, when I questioned him about the lack of romantic gestures, and attention after we got married.
Wives have to keep things spontaneous and unpredictable. We have to shake things up once in awhile to keep it interesting. Cooking and cleaning for our man don't turn him on. Do something for him that you know he likes, and you don't usually do it, try something new. Be aggressive sometimes, if you are always passive. Don't always wait for him to initiate. Get some whipped cream and put it places that need licked, put a love note in his lunch, get in the shower with him, strip outside somewhere that you won't get arrested.
Surprise him, don't criticize him. Be the fun girl that he married and not the wife that has become predictable and maybe a little boring.How can i get my husband to give me the same attention he did when we were dating?
This is something that is very common. People get married and settled in with daily routines. Have you tried explaining to him how you feel? Would he listen? What happens here is one partner gives and gives and finally gets to the point of feeling why put in the effort. Maybe try a weekend get away. Reminisce about things. Being able to discuss things and having someone be receptive is very important.
He's got you in the bag, and now he doesnt even have to try. I feel the same. Feel like life would have been way better off if we were still dating. Marriage is great and everything, dont get me wrong, but yeah, it also means that your guy kinda becomes less attentive. Grr. Guys.
I had this problem and we have been together 3 years you need to talk and tell him how you feel if he does not change then think how is it going to be in 5 or 10 years just talk tell him how you feel communication is really important you need it to keep a relationship going
I think you should try to dress up a little bit and dress sexy and more attractive then he ever seen and tease him a little
Sex and attention just die in relationships after the first couple years. Get used to it or try an alternative style.
whatever u did to get him, u gotta do to keep him.
mystery intrigues men. u suggested what sounds like a great solution to me. Don't be an open book
well if you think you talk to much,than yea.lol
and write down all of the pros and cons,what's on your mind..that usually helps me clear my head!that way u don't over think or react to anything.
give him attention and then you'll get it back
Try thinking of it this way: Think what you'd like him to do for you, how you'd like him to act for you, and do it. However, this doesn't necesarily work. What works for me: My wife says she loves me several times a day, she always touches me, mostly inappropriately, tells me how i rock her world, how she misses me, and gives me her undivided attention. I find myself doing the same thing for her. For some reason, all the man things i do (fix here things, cook for her, etc) don't really have an impact, but the loving and making her #1 in public does....all because she does the same for me.
No you should not stop talking because communication is the key to any good relationship.
However you sound very insecure and needy because you mention your looks and weight as a reason he should still be paying attention to you now like when he was dating you. You husband probably thinks you are secure in your position of being his wife and feels free not to ';babysit'; you. If you are insecure you should let him know I am sure he does not realize the extent of your neediness of his direct time. You should work on being and feeling pretty inside not just outside.
When couples are dating they always put their best and more time into each other, but once united there are so many other things to worry about like careers, interpersonals relationships that are created as a result of being married.
If you marriage is a good one and this is the only quirk or complaint you have, you should appreciate and enjoy your union with this man - and there is nothing wrong with letting him know that you need a little more attention, I'm sure he will surrender to the idea because he wants you to be happy, but you have to be happy inside first.
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